Dating someone with cancer
The thing is, you could date someone healthy who gets hits by a bus, or has a stroke, or gets diagnosed with a major illness after you are well into the relationship. So i think what you need to evaluate here is how strong your attachment is to her, and how you think you would respond if the worst case scenario occurred and she starts to decline.I think if you are in a relationship it is pretty awful to leave someone when they are terminally ill, so you have to be the kind of person who could stick out a few years of potentially bad times with her, and stay with someone who may be dying.I understand the need for love and a partner, but I don't know if she's being entirely fair with you. Thank you for this advice, it is good to hear someone say it. She has already been rejected by others because of it. I want her to have more, but I know that will be at great cost to myself.It puts an immense burden on a relationship and makes everything so dramatic and intense. I know she's thinking she's giving you a free choice; but to be honest, it's so loaded. It makes me sick to my stomach though that she be condemned by this illness to a fate of loneliness. And perhaps that is not a healthy dynamic in a relationship.So don't make any commitment you don't think you can keep.
But if you are not sure of your feelings for her, then it is best to err on the side of caution in order to not leave her when she's terminal if you can't handle the worst case scenario.
So if she doesn't want to feel alone, she can join the many, many support groups and services offered for cancer patients and survivors.
i also think it wasn't fair of this woman you are dating to wait until you'd dated 6 weeks before telling you.
I have been dating a woman for about 6 weeks and starting to develop feelings for her.
Yesterday she told me she has cancer, and that it is a particularly bad form of it and based on my research, general life expectancy is not that great.I cannot be indecisive or wishy-washy about my commitment to her if I decide to make that commitment. I also feel that if we do get into a relationship, and I am unhappy with some part of it down the line (other than the illness), that I will stay in the relationship out of guilt of abandoning her.