A few weeks ago, I met with an astrologist named Colin Bedell who gave me more insight into my psyche in two hours than two therapists over three years ever did.Looking over my natal chart, he told me that he could sense a contempt of masculinity that I’d been carrying around. “And that contempt, and the negative feelings for your father, are fucking up your dating life.”He was right. We have a man in the White House who is on tape admitting to sexual assault.I’d slowly allowed myself to turn into a cynic and a bit of a misandrist when it came to my interactions with men. Donald Trump is also currently endorsing Roy Moore — a man accused of sexual misconduct against teenagers, some as young as 14 — to fill a senate seat in order to have the votes to help him fulfill a vow to confirm only anti-choice judges to the Supreme Court.Meanwhile, America now has a laundry list of powerful men being accused of sexual harassment and assault.Colin reminded me of something I believe in wholeheartedly: We attract what we put out into the world. I’m still outspoken about the things that are important to me, but I’m trying to keep the bitterness in check.As I approach the new year, I’m attempting to learn from 2017 and strike a healthier balance so that I’m ready to date with a clearer head and a more open mind.I’d start getting into it with guys on dating apps who sent me shitty messages.I actually right-swiped on a guy in order to tell him how misogynistic his profile was.
And even though our views are different, I love him as a person.(He’d written that women didn’t know how to be women anymore, and that women should “stop with the provocative profile photos if you want to find a husband.”) I began tweeting about the crappy experiences I had on dating apps, which just fed the negativity.