Intj trouble with dating
In fact, one of the primary reasons INTJs seek relationships is to have someone to share ideas with.
As David Keirsey put it, for INTJs, love often comes (and arguably should come) in the form of a “mindmate.” Unfortunately, finding a suitable mindmate is rarely an easy task for the INTJ.
While not necessarily their fault, this should comprise at least as much of their relational attention as trying to see and diagnose problems in their partners.
To be fair, accurate self-evaluation can be a problem for all J-types, since their preferred mode of Judging (Fe or Te) is directed outwardly rather than inwardly.
It is therefore important for partners to remember that INTJs’ first priority is accuracy of perception, so if the INTJ happens to be wrong, there is a good chance he will eventually come to recognize it.
Therefore, INTJs are generally less consciously concerned about Fi matters than FP types are.
Consequently, like other TJ types, they can come across as blunt, mechanical, or lacking a certain degree of tact or social know-how.
Their reputation as arrogant know-it-alls can also be attributed, in part, to misperceptions involving their Te.
When it comes to forming and developing relationships, INTJs often have a few factors working against them.
For one, they express themselves via their auxiliary Te rather than Fe.This may inspire them to gather as many facts and self-help strategies as they can regarding human psychology and relationships.